#XXReset your LIFE

Have you ever stopped to think, where did this year/decade/life go? Auto-pilot serves us well on long trips and stretches of work, but if we don’t stop every so often to reflect on where we’re going we can end up at a destination we never intended to arrive.

If you find yourself in need of focus, or are looking for a change, the possibility for a new beginning is ALWAYS an option, but first you’ve gotta get your mind right! So, have you tried turning it off and on again? The same way you would restart your computer or electronic device if it starts tripping, is the same principle of a #XXReset. This 3-step process helps me when I need perspective but also, gives me the direction I need to SOAR! Because why are we living this human experience if the aim isn’t flight?

Step 1: Commit

The first step on your #XXReset is to make a commitment to yourself, your wellness, and your evolution. You are the only person you can never escape and so, instead of running or hiding, choose today to embrace you. Say it! I COMMIT TO MYSELF. Know you are worthy! I COMMIT TO MYSELF. Look in the mirror! I COMMIT TO MYSELF. Write it down! I COMMIT TO MYSELF.

Depending on where you are in your self-love journey this may be a breeze or a gale force wind, but do not skip this step, and commit to self improvement EVERY DAY.

Step 2: Reflect

Once you’ve made this commitment to you, for better or for worse, you are tasked with knowing who exactly it is that you have committed to. Intense realism is a practice where we survey ourselves and our surroundings to find TRUTH not comfort. In Robert Green’s the 50th Law (which is fearlessness!), he explains how many of us live in a fantasy world. A world of wishes and projections as a means to escape ugly realities about our circumstances or ourselves.

Because you have committed to yourself in step one however, there is no choice but to do this arduous work of reflection and FIND YOUR TRUTH. What are your skills, your flaws? What life are you excited to live? How will you make it happen?! To help, we look to the concept of ikigai, a Japanese term which translates to “reason for being”. Ikigai can be found at the convergence of the following four questions: What do I love? What am I good at? What does the world need? What can I be paid for?

To reflect on your ikigai, paint a vivid picture, use descriptive words, dream! The beauty of this process is that you are at the center and so your answers can (and will) change as you evolve and know yourself. Be honest, take your time, but most importantly delight in this process of self-discovery!

Step 3: Take Action

Finally, there is no development without WORK. I liken a #XXReset to taking a photograph on a DSLR camera. First, you have the urge or impulse to take a photo, you commit to this idea and grab the necessary tools to make it happen. Next, as you bring the subject of your photograph into the viewfinder, you focus. Where do you want to stand, what do you want in the frame, the choices you make directly effect the outcome of your photograph and so reflection and intention are the master here. But no matter how committed you are, or what your focus is, there is no photograph until the moment you follow through, press down on the shutter, and snap.

The final step in your #XXReset is to take this commitment to yourself and what you’ve learned about who you are, and DO SOMETHING WITH IT. We can say we believe in ourselves every day, we can write in journals about what we want our lives to look like, but until we go out and make these things happens, they accomplish nothing. As long as you are alive you are writing your own story, so believe you are worthy, reflect on what’s working, what needs to change, and take action to make your musings a reality.

So, did you find this process helpful? Will you be trying a #XXReset? Be sure to comment with your thoughts or tag us on instagram @myxxfly with your stories and use the #XXReset! Until next time, believe in yourself, do the work, and keep your double-x fly!